When the world doesn't see your potential...

It’s soul-crushing when you feel like you have nothing to add to a world that seems to have everything it needs... but it can be even more devastating and frustrating when you sense brilliance inside of you but have no idea how to bring it to life! This has been a challenge that loves to poke and prod me in my vulnerable moments, but used to overwhelm me more than denim on denim. It's like you wish a talent agent of the Universe would just scale your walls, pull back the blinders you’ve kept your brilliance behind and say “oh my god, this is what the world’s been waiting for!” If we knew with certainty that people would receive us well and we were guaranteed success it would be so much easier to have the courage to risk looking like the fool that tried. I used to protect my grand visions by keeping them in sacred silence, where they could run free as a cushy thought of “what could be”. There’s almost a peace that comes from not getting what we want when we know we never really tried. It’s strokes our egos nicely to think that “maybe I am good enough to have made it” because we don’t have to be greeted by the cold, hard reality that, perhaps, we won't...

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The rub comes from the fact that we need to believe in ourselves and become devoted to our paths before others will even get a hint of what we’re capable of. By default, most people will believe that you’re not capable of fulfilling all the dreams you have for this life. This sounds harsh, but they’re not just making judgments about your abilities- they’re projecting their own beliefs on what they think is possible for them. And telling you that you can’t fulfil your dreams gives peace to the part of them that’s given up on theirs- because it’s “unrealistic”, they tell themselves. But anything is unrealistic until we’ve made it happen! Literally the only reality it exists in before we bring it to life is in our minds. So we must first believe in our own capabilities and vision before anything in life will give us the green light.

We must become truly devoted first to making our dreams a reality, and it can be so difficult when you don’t even know if it’s possible! My 'perfectionist' tendencies (a.k.a. fear in fancy dress) mixed with an outcome-focus has killed so many amazing projects before they've even escaped my mouth! But true devotion doesn’t rest and fall with one particular outcome. I am realising that becoming truly devoted to your path doesn’t mean you throw out an idea, hear crickets, watch tumble weed rolling past and then you think “well that didn't work.” True devotion is knowing that no single outcome will either make or break you because you're succeeding by being on your path. It's in tripping on a challenge and, rather than falling ashamedly, it's turning it into a light jog, convincing yourself that that's what you meant to do the whole time. You've got places to be after all! It's becoming so committed to living true to who you know you will become, regardless of how others might try to limit you, that failure only happens when you downplay your true capabilities just to fit in with their view on what’s “realistic”. And may we be so blessed to live another day where we may fail exquisitely in pursuit of a life that brings us alive.